“The good ones are all already taken,” you find yourself thinking after having been on too many showings (or too many dates).

Finding the right apartment (or partner) depends on so many factors. The timing, the inventory, your criteria, and the right real estate agent (or wingman) who’s got your back. Sound familiar? Looking for an apartment kind of reminds us of trying to find the right partner.

Triplemint’s partner Brick Underground (we’re in love) actually reported on one woman’s quest to combine the two eternal searches into one. So how do they compare and how can you make both easier? (We’re actually only experts on real estate, but we know a lot about dating as well.)

Priorities are Important

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Before you even start your search, you really need to get your priorities straight. Would you like to live by yourself or move in with roommates? How long should your lease last? Or are you even considering buying a place (which comes with even more commitment)?

Why are you looking to move and which requirements are you serious about? Which can you compromise about? What is your budget? Questions and more questions. Having a long and hard think about your wishes and dreams is essential, since it will save you a lot of time in the long run.

Have you ever been in the same situation after a break-up or just after meeting a person that you’re really interested in? “Take your time,” “don’t rush things,” “you have to know yourself before you can start dating someone else,” are all statements the majority of us have probably heard before.

The Search is Tech-Heavy

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With so many dating apps flooding the market and user numbers spiking, dating has actually become incredibly tech-heavy. Tinder, Bumble, or Hinge are just a few examples of apps that literally let you interact with people without leaving the comfort of your home.

If you love swiping right or left on people, you might want to consider using technology to find a new apartment as well. Triplemint combines technology, data, and a select group of real estate experts to help renters and buyers view interesting listings and assist sellers to better price their homes.

You might find that your apartment search will give you more options than the dating world! Triplemint uses a special algorithm to identify properties that are most likely to sell, therefore giving buyers access to exclusive off-market listings. In the dating world, you rarely see off-market options in free range, they’re most likely Netflixing and chilling at home with their partner.

The Search is Complicated

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The New York City real estate market isn’t entirely straightforward. Condo or co-op? Manhattan, Brooklyn, or Queens? Rent or buy? Studio or one bedroom? By yourself or with roommates? What’s your credit score? Does your income meet the requirements for signing a lease? There are so many things to consider.

It’s the same with trying to find a significant other. Do they share my wishes and dreams? Do they have similar plans for the future? Do they want kids? Are they going to stay in NYC or move out of the city?

Even when you’re deeply in love with your partner, there might be situations when you’re not completely sure about them or they disappoint you. Dealing with these setbacks and determining if you two are going to be the right match directly translates into the apartment search. Getting your priorities straight and knowing what you want is an essential step – in both scenarios.

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With so many existential questions being thrown at you, it’s only natural to seek help instead of striking out on your own. Your Triplemint agent will be happy to serve as your lifeline when you feel like you’re drowning in a neverending stream of listings and paperwork. And it’s the same with dating!

Who do you turn to when you’ve been ghosted yet again by a new love interest or you find out they’ve been seeing someone else? Your friends and family. They’ll listen to your story, give advice, and support you in any way they can.

There are Too Many Choices

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New York City’s real estate market is enormous and sometimes very hard to navigate. With all these options being thrown at you, different boroughs and neighborhoods to consider, and trying to stay within budget, the apartment search can seem exhausting.

As a single person in New York City, you’re probably feeling like Carrie from Sex and the City, who went through all the obstacles you can think of. Having choices can be a positive thing, no doubt, but it’s only natural to be overwhelmed and frustrated.

Again, the best thing here is to get your priorities straight beforehand and to stay true to what you want. Taking the time to really think about what you want will save you from lots of disappointment, whether it’s looking for an apartment in NYC or searching for your soul mate.